sorry im struggling

[Bonzo]

Pleased to hear you are managing to cope Baz & hope your other half is coping the best she can.

Havn't posted on this thread as yet, being a typical bloke I find in this kinda situation it is very hard to express the right words

I wish you both well for the future mate

[baz-r]

sadly the other half is not so well but i feel im comming to trems with what is going on in my life and i have to be strong and honest with myself, its a common thing in life that some of us have to go trough
i just cant beleve all the people that when we have come out about it have had the same problems
i feel its treated as a dirty secret and i feel it would be helpful to some of the younger guys at the same place in life or earlyer to know about it as it feels so isolating when you go trough it anyone who has been there will know and us guys dont talk about our problems making it very hard to go trough

sorry i dont meen to upset anyone i would feel it helpful to have read somthing like this when i was in the same place

[audi5pot]

sorry to hear about your situation hope all is good for the future if you need a second pair of hands i live just out side exeter so am willing to help just give us a shout

[baz-r]

things are improving
thanks for the offer audi5pot

[flyerncle]

Good to hear Baz,its a man thing to be macho but human to be vunerable.
There is no shame in either,the pain never goes away but gets easier to bear as time goes on.

The members of this forum are second to none and if you feel the need to sound off or discuss your feelings you know its not a problem to do so on here.

Best wishes to you both.

[leroybrown911]

Best wishes to you and your misses.

Leigh

[spud69]

Apologies Baz but i must of missed this previously.

The loss of a child must be one of the hardest things a parent has to go through whether its born or not. A miscarriage many may think only bereaves the mother but it certainly doesn't. Its probably something you will never stop thinking and grieving over but it will get easier, happened to me and my ex 20 years ago but since we had 2 great kids together. Anja and myself, have been together 10 years and cannot have kids together and its not the same but its like most things if there is something you cant have you want it even more. Main reason why we are in the process of becoming approved foster carers before it's too late.

The build is certainly good therapy just make sure that Mrs Baz is okay.

All the Best.....Andrew

[ozzy1]

Went through this scenario myself/ourselves about 2 1/2 years ago and must admit that it hit her a lot harder than me for some reason.Already have 2 kids and a 3rd wasnt planned.The only real way i found is to realise that although not what you want to hear is that the body usually does it for a good reason usually because of a problem with the egg/foetus.Fortunately it was very early on into the pregnancy when it happen and no medical problems or issues arose.Approx 6 months later she was pregnant again and all went smoothly for the full term and now have a very bright and blue eyed blonde daughter,number 2!
The 1st born was 5 weeks prem but was a fit and healthy 3.2kg boy but number 2 was 6 weeks prem and had gastroschesis(hole next to belly button with intestines poking out) and had an operation within 30 mins of being born. Spent the first 2 weeks of her life in intensive care and was 2 kg when born.Now fit and healthy hyperchild so everything is all good.
Sorry for ramble just thought shows how life works out in the end.Also this is after she was told she would never have kids!! Now have 3!!

[misty]

Sorry for your trouble ,look after your wife at this dredful time, i know what it is like, we lost 4 and it is ruff. you and wife first, car second ,will be thinking of you
sorry again